{"id":1744,"date":"2023-04-10T15:31:53","date_gmt":"2023-04-10T15:31:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/eirini-savalan.com\/?p=1744"},"modified":"2023-06-29T15:33:45","modified_gmt":"2023-06-29T12:33:45","slug":"coaching-as-partner-in-conflict-management","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/eirini-savalan.com\/en\/coaching-as-partner-in-conflict-management\/","title":{"rendered":"Coaching, as partner, in conflict management"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Conflict management is quite frequently a coaching goal. Conflict is inevitable in relationships of any sector. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What causes conflict between people?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Conflict occurs when individuals have different opinions, ideas and mental processes and they lack attempt or willingness to understand other persons\u2019 views.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Conflicts and disagreements usually lead to poor communication, negative feelings, loss of focus and decreased sense of belonging. Although a conflict can lead to increased distress, there are tools in place, especially through coaching, that can refine how we handle conflict situations before these conclude to bigger problems. Conflict management skills are essential both in professional and personal life. As such, it\u2019s often required both in <a href=\"https:\/\/eirini-savalan.com\/services\/business-coaching\/\">business <\/a>and <a href=\"https:\/\/eirini-savalan.com\/services\/life-coaching\/\">life coaching.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How can you identify if you have good conflict management skills or you need to develop them further?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>POOR CONFLICT MANAGEMENT SKILLS SIGNS:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2022 You generally avoid dealing with conflict.<br>\u2022 You don\u2019t stand up for your own interests and point of view.<br>\u2022 You find yourself compromising in order to just get along.<br>\u2022 You take a conflict too personally and you end up upset.<br>\u2022 You try to win the argument and not reach an agreement.<br>\u2022 You keep waiting for the ideal timing or circumstances before making a move.<br>\u2022 You adopt a more passive role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><br>GOOD CONFLICT MANAGEMENT SKILLS SIGNS:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2022 You step up when conflicts arise.<br>\u2022 You share your views but you\u2019re respecting what other people say or how they feel.<br>\u2022 You remain calm and you actively listen to others.<br>\u2022 You encounter conflicts as opportunities for making progress and positive changes.<br>\u2022 You can identify common ground easily.<br>\u2022 You focus on solution, communication and connection not on winners and losers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How can coaching handle conflicts?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Conflict Coaching is a structured process to help people to develop or enhance their skills, knowledge and competencies, to more effectively engage in and manage interpersonal conflict.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The coaching approach is present and future-focused and solution, task and action-oriented and can be broken down in the below tactics:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Understanding the Client <\/strong>&#8211; where the client is coming from, why they feel the way they do, and what is the outcome the Client wishes to achieve. The safe and neutral environment of a coaching relationship will defuse the emotions, calm the anxiety\/stress and will open a constructive dialogue.<\/li><li><strong>Understanding the conflict case<\/strong> &#8211; we assess the elements of conflict from all sides. The Coach helps the Client to self-reflect their behavior, communication style and trigger points. The Coach also encourages the Coachee to evaluate and accept other participants\u2019 communication and dispute styles.<\/li><li><strong>Client\u2019s self-development<\/strong> \u2013 The Coach supports the Client to set and develop their conflict resolution goals, identify what steps are needed to reach these goals and hold them responsible and accountable for achieving them. During the self-development phase, the Coachee focuses on proceeding to an honest self-evaluation, un-learning unhelpful behaviors and reactions, building self-confidence in adapting styles and engaging in difficult conversations, developing good communication skills, cultivating the ability to consider viable options to resolve conflicts and improving resilience in order to manage future difficulties.<\/li><li><strong>Client\u2019s interpersonal skills <\/strong>\u2013 During this phase, the Client is working on their abilities to manage relationships and potential conflicts with others. This is facilitated by improving understanding, interest on other people\u2019s needs, respect on their perspective, even if they disagree with it, active listening in order to understand their views and not necessarily to respond to them. Finally, the Client can learn how to negotiate better, compromise or even satisfy the other person\u2019s request in a way that the Client is ok with.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>Managing conflicts and tolerating the corresponding thoughts and feelings can turn out exhausting. Help yourself to exit the loop and ask assistance so you can learn how to handle conflict properly, develop new resolution skills and resilience mechanisms and transform the experience of a conflict into a new growth challenge and not a stressful and toxic situation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Contact me to find out more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.freepik.com\/free-vector\/tug-war-competition-two-teams-pull-rope_27103699.htm?query=conflict#from_view=detail_alsolike\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Image by upklyak<\/a> on Freepik<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Conflict management is quite frequently a coaching goal. Conflict is inevitable in relationships of any sector. 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